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Jamie Bishop and Steffi Hofer
Clayton, NC; March 13, 2004


First of all, thank you so much to everyone who either commented on the previous entry or emailed me personally. I know that many of you found my entry from the link at Locus Online, or elsewhere on the Web. The outpouring of condolences was a bit overwhelming; every time I checked, 30 or 40 more people had responded, and the sorrow and sadness over the loss of my friend sent me into a fresh bout of sobbing. That was how I spent much of yesterday: in alternating states of absolute shock and uncontrollable weeping. I've been deliberately staying away from the television, because the slipshod speculative reporting at CNN just upset me even more.

I'm still trying to come to grips with it all, to try and comprehend how such a senseless and violent event could occur, and I just can't. In Buddhism, we're told to accept that there is suffering in the world, that the cycle of worldly existence (samsara) is an embodiment of that suffering, and that the best thing we can do is to let go of our emotional attachments. Seemingly easy in theory, but much harder in practice.

There is a hole in my life, once filled by the presence of my friend Jamie Bishop. He was one of the most kindhearted and compassionate people I've ever had the good fortune to meet. Words are not coming easy today -- it's taking me hours to compose this entry -- but I shall try to do my best, insufficient as my efforts will be. After writing a tribute last week to Kurt Vonnegut for Bloggasm, I never could have imagined that I would be writing another one this week for someone so close to me.

I first met Jamie at Trinoc-con, a science fiction convention held in Durham, NC, in 2000. I knew several of the author guests there, and at one point I insinuated myself into a large group of them going out to dinner. I was still unpublished at that point, and my starstruck eyes could hardly believe that I was eating alongside Paul Di Filippo and Michael Swanwick and John Kessel and Michael Bishop. Jamie was there as well, with his wife Steffi, and as we were the only ones there around the same age (and, fortunately, seated across from each other), we struck up a conversation. He seemed amazed that I could find the time and energy to write fiction after an eight-hour day at my office job. I told him how much I enjoyed his pieces up in the Art Show. Later, I bought two of the pieces, and he gave me a discount, even though we'd just met, because that was the kind of guy he was.

We lost touch for a year after that; he'd given me his email address, but I must have misread it, because none of my messages went through. Thankfully, he came to the next Trinoc-con, and we got to spend much more time together. I discovered that he and Steffi were living in Chapel Hill (only a half-hour away from where I lived in Raleigh) while she finished her PhD at UNC, and we made plans to get together after that.

From then on, we would occasionally meet either in Raleigh or Chapel Hill (or nearby Carrboro, after they moved there). We would sometimes watch serious films and discuss them thoughtfully afterward, or cheesy B-movies that we would yell at and make snarky comments a la Mystery Science Theater 3000 (a tradition he would continue with his Kitch 'n Bitch groups). We would sometimes just hang out and talk about books or movies or comics or art. He was always generous with his time.

In December of 2001, I decided to create a chapbook of my fiction to give away as Christmas presents, and Jamie agreed to illustrate it. The results can be found here.

I would send stories his way to get his opinion, and he always had an insight I hadn't thought about. When I announced that I was quitting my job to attend the Clarion Writer's Workshop, he was one of the first to congratulate me.

When I was directionless after getting back from Clarion, he convinced me to apply for graduate school, and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. One other was the decision to ask Janet to be my wife; Jamie was an usher at my wedding, and the photo above of Jamie and Steffi was taken at our reception. Yet another was the recent decision Janet and I made to move to Singapore, and he was incredibly supportive; in January, we drove up to Blacksburg to visit Jamie and Steffi before leaving the country, and I'm so glad we got that chance.

He was often unsatisfied with his artistic efforts; I can't remember the number of times that he decided to revamp his portfolio website, memory39. He constantly pushed himself with his digital artwork, creating more and more interesting pieces as he gathered confidence in his skills and tools. He renewed his love for photography, taking astonishingly beautiful photos while staying almost invisible behind his camera's eye. In recent years, he combined his passions into large format photocollages, pieces maybe three feet wide by three feet tall, made up of dozens of smaller prints all glued together to a piece of wood.

He played acoustic guitar, and took lessons on the djembe drum. When he interviewed me, it was in a home studio he constructed himself. That was another thing: if he required a bookshelf or entertainment center or coffee table, and what he wanted didn't already exist, he would build it himself.

Jamie loved the German language, receiving his bachelor's and master's degrees in German language and linguistics. While living abroad and teaching in Heidelberg, he met the love of his life, Stefanie Hofer, and German was the language that they spoke to each other at home alone. From everything I've heard from Jamie's German students at Virginia Tech, he was a patient and enthusiastic teacher, and I believe it. It makes total sense that his love of the language would translate to the classroom.

I miss my friend terribly. He was too young to be taken from us this soon. It's going to be difficult to think of my life without him in it.

One of Jamie's favorite poems was "Thanatopsis" by William Cullen Bryant, a poem that is a meditation upon death. I'd like to quote the last few lines:

So live, that when thy summons comes to join
The innumerable caravan which moves
To that mysterious realm, where each shall take
His chamber in the silent halls of death,
Thou go not, like the quarry-slave at night,
Scourged to his dungeon, but, sustained and soothed
By an unfaltering trust, approach thy grave
Like one who wraps the drapery of his couch
About him, and lies down to pleasant dreams.

Goodbye, my friend. You will be greatly missed.

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zellandyne
Apr. 18th, 2007 08:28 am (UTC)
That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing. And I am so very sorry.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:14 am (UTC)
Thanks, Diana.
danjite
Apr. 18th, 2007 09:43 am (UTC)
There are no words for me to say, of course. Condolences are usually appreciated and always insufficient.

Well said, J, and well written.

I thank all the things that I hold dear that I know not your pain and with all that I am wish you and yours peace.

jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:15 am (UTC)
Thanks, danjite.
silk_noir
Apr. 18th, 2007 10:38 am (UTC)
Jason, that was lovely.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:16 am (UTC)
Thanks, silk. It still feels incomplete and insufficient, but it was the best I could do right now.
matociquala
Apr. 18th, 2007 11:19 am (UTC)
This is beautiful, and I wish you had never had to write it.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:17 am (UTC)
Thanks, Bear. I wish that too.
alexfiles
Apr. 18th, 2007 12:14 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:18 am (UTC)
Thanks, Alex.
lunablack
Apr. 18th, 2007 01:09 pm (UTC)
Where does the light go?
The darkness does not claim it.
It joins with our hearts.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:18 am (UTC)
I sure hope so, Luna.
shalimar1001
Apr. 18th, 2007 01:11 pm (UTC)
The buddhist said, the unfinished love shall always stains in your life, and that is the impetus of samsara. Your love is true, and the samsara will always connect you with the one you love.
I am very sorry for your loss.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:19 am (UTC)
Thanks, shalimar.
mekkavandexter
Apr. 18th, 2007 02:02 pm (UTC)
in the temple i go to now and then, during the Shotsuki memorial service they open by welcoming Amidha/Shakyamuni:

We respectfully call upon Tathagata Shakyamuni to enter this dojo as we joyfully scatter flowers of welcome

i always liked that image of someone waiting as the petals rain down. It's the first thing I thought of when I heard of this tragedy, and wherever Jamie's path leads him now, know that someone is waiting for him, joyfully scattering the flowers of welcome.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:20 am (UTC)
Thank you, Amber. That's a beautiful image.
albionidaho
Apr. 18th, 2007 02:02 pm (UTC)
Oh, Jason. I am so sorry. I just found out.

This is a beautiful tribute.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:21 am (UTC)
Thanks, Maggie. It feels like nowhere near enough to express how much Jamie meant to me, but it's the best I can do in my grief.
dobrovolets
Apr. 18th, 2007 02:12 pm (UTC)
This made me think that he was a person I would have liked to know. Which suggests to me that you are a good friend, and that in some way he lives on within you.

I'm glad you posted links to his art and photography, because much of it was beautiful, and some of it, considering the circumstances, unnerving.

Be well.

jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:22 am (UTC)
Thanks, man. He was a wonderful person to know.
crissachappell
Apr. 18th, 2007 03:04 pm (UTC)
Beautiful words...
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:23 am (UTC)
Thanks, Crissa.
sovay
Apr. 18th, 2007 03:05 pm (UTC)
This is a beautiful remembering. I am sorry I did not ever have the chance to meet him outside of it.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:24 am (UTC)
Thanks, Sonya. I wish you could have met him too.
interrociter
Apr. 18th, 2007 04:16 pm (UTC)
Jason,

I was wondering if you'd met Jamie at Trinoc*con. It gives me a small measure of solace to know that perhaps my efforts with the convention helped to foster your friendship. My heart goes out to you and to Jamie's family.

Dan
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:25 am (UTC)
Thanks, Dan. It was in large part because of your work with Trinoc-con that I got to meet and befriend Jamie, and I'm forever grateful for that.
claredudman
Apr. 18th, 2007 05:54 pm (UTC)
Incredibly sad, Jason. I am so sorry. It's such a tragic waste. This is a beautiful tribute.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:26 am (UTC)
Thanks, Clare.
ripperbard
Apr. 18th, 2007 06:15 pm (UTC)
I missed your first post, so send my condolences now. There's nothing easy about writing an elegy, but it does always seem to be an early step in pulling sense from the senseless. The above is beautiful, terrible, and honest, and I'm glad I had the chance to read it, much as I'm glad you were able to write it.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:28 am (UTC)
Thanks, Aaron. It did make me feel the tiniest bit better to be able to write it, though it took a lot out of me to do so. I wish I hadn't needed to write it in the first place, but I'm glad that I can spread the word on what a wonderful guy Jamie was.
parttimedriver
Apr. 18th, 2007 09:11 pm (UTC)
Well spoken. Those of us who know Mike have been utterly heartbroken; I'm so glad to have this tribute from someone who knew Jamie so well.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:29 am (UTC)
Thanks, Brett. I hope I was able to do some justice to Jamie's life.
gabistoicea
Apr. 19th, 2007 12:29 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry about your loss, Jason. I did not have the privilege of knowing Jamie in person. But it is clear from his website that he was a very gifted and intelligent person. May he rest in peace.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:30 am (UTC)
Thanks, gabistoicea.
broken_doll08
Apr. 19th, 2007 03:29 am (UTC)
:/
I went to VT for Engineering last semester, although I transferred out to pursue graphic design at a smaller college closer to home. My one regret was that there was no German program at the school I presently go to. Herr Bishop was such an awesome teacher, and he was always asking how everyone was ("Wie geht es (name)?") and used David Hasselhoff in his examples of German grammar. I can easily say that he was the only professor at VT that I really liked, because he was so down-to-earth, and was always positive. I was considering doing a study abroad to Germany if I had continued my studies at VT, and I remember him asking if I was going to take German next semester... I explained I was transferring out.. and I felt bad, because the class was the only one that I got to freely choose and now I was leaving it all behind. My only close friend that I had when I went to VT saw everything happen that day... she called me today to tell me she's getting a tattoo that says "Ueberlebende", survivor in German, with an ankh..
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:34 am (UTC)
Re: :/
Thanks for writing, Angela. I'm glad to hear that you were able to spend a semester under Jamie's teaching; the reference to David Hasselhoff puts a smile on my face, as we sometimes poked fun of him together.

Please relay to your friend my sympathies as well. If she gets that tattoo, I would appreciate seeing a photo of it.
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themaskmaker
Apr. 19th, 2007 02:52 pm (UTC)
Thank you for this, Jason.

-- Grey Walker
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 04:08 pm (UTC)
You're very welcome, Grey. I hope it did his life some level of justice.
earthsea
Apr. 19th, 2007 03:41 pm (UTC)
Just wanted to say how sorry I am. I've been following the news with sorrow, and this made me realise how every person is mourned by an entire community of people. The loss is the more painful for it, just as it makes us realise just how much we're all interconnected.

Thanks for your beautiful tribute and sharing your memories of a good friend.
jlundberg
Apr. 19th, 2007 04:10 pm (UTC)
You're welcome, earthsea. It's true, we don't know how many people we affect in life until we're gone. Jamie was loved by a lot of people.
abazoe
Apr. 19th, 2007 05:58 pm (UTC)
I came from your comment on the Washington Post's webpage -- where I had gone after reading Neil Gaiman's blog entry about hearing the news that Jamie Bishop had died. I don't have anything useful to add, except to say that my heart is filled with sorrow and sympathy for his family, and his friends -- and all the family and friends mourning. The tragedy reverberates, and the sympathy and lovely tributes are heartbreaking.

I wish healing as best it can be in your future.
wakey1512
Apr. 19th, 2007 06:29 pm (UTC)
How saddening
I'm speaking from the UK, and I probably speak for many when I say this. Out of all the poor victims of that terrible mass murder, Jamie stood out to me the most. After reading that excellent, but saddening article, I understand how painful it must be for people. The man looked and sounded a lovely man, and it was such a shame. The killer should be bought back to life and killed 32 times again for the pain he caused. I feel so sorry for all the victims, but the article above confirms to me that Jamie was a lovely chap, and it's a bloody shame to see him go.
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philgrad
Apr. 19th, 2007 06:14 pm (UTC)
Loss
Jason,

I didn't know Jamie, but his parents are dear old friends of my parents, and I've enjoyed Mike's writing over the years. They are great people, and I'm sure Jamie was as well. I take some comfort in knowing that he touched many lives such as yours over the years, and that can never be taken away.

This is a heart-rending tragedy. I am so very sorry for this loss.

Josh
jlundberg
Apr. 20th, 2007 12:48 am (UTC)
Re: Loss
Thanks, Josh.
herlinde
Apr. 19th, 2007 07:54 pm (UTC)
sympathy from germany
Ich schreibe Ihnen in deutscher Sprache, da er die Sprache so mochte. Ich und alle meine Freunde, sind erschüttert über diese Tat. Obwohl wir ihn nicht kannten, ist uns bewusst, dass wir einen grossartigen Botschafter unseres Landes verloren haben.
Wir senden seiner Familie und seinen Freunden unser aufrichtiges Beileid.

jlundberg
Apr. 20th, 2007 12:40 am (UTC)
Re: sympathy from germany
Vielen Dank für das Schreiben mir.
leslie_what
Apr. 19th, 2007 09:23 pm (UTC)
Condolences
Jason, I'm so sorry. I heard the piece about your blog on NPR and was of course, driving, and needed to pull over. It's so overwhelmingly sad--I am grateful to have an opportunity to learn a bit about Jamie and better recognize the magnitude of loss.

best

Leslie What
jlundberg
Apr. 20th, 2007 12:50 am (UTC)
Re: Condolences
Thanks, Leslie, and it's good to hear from you.
serendipoz
Apr. 19th, 2007 09:40 pm (UTC)
I've corresponded with Mike before and met him a few times. Between your reactions and just reading what Jamie has written about himself, I know I have missed meeting a unique man. I am sorry for the reasons I learned this. My thoughts and concerns with you and his close friends, and especially Michael and Jeri.

Take care of yourself.

Joyce
jlundberg
Apr. 20th, 2007 12:50 am (UTC)
Thanks, Joyce.
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